Music has healing properties. And it seems that just when I need it, a song will show up to tell me just what I need to hear.

Marc Cohn is a singer-songwriter whose music touches my soul. In his song She’s Becoming Gold, he sings of a woman who has seen her measure of tragedy and disappointment. In his words, the man of her dreams isn’t quite who he seems and the baby won’t sleep through the night. But something is moving inside her so that, despite her external circumstances, she has the ability to tap into her inner gold.

We all do.

What I have learned in life is that no one can really give you what you need. You have to find it within yourself. If you go searching for happiness on the outside, you will be sorely disappointed. Happiness is not a destination, but a way of being.

Have you ever tried getting beingness from another? How did that work out for you? Probably not too well.

So how can you get to that place of solid beingness? It starts with one small decision to opt for joy over sorrow. It begins with your choice to believe in the goodness of life.

I am a true believer of that goodness. What may be masked as tragedy has a deeper meaning, a true opportunity to look inside yourself and to thank the Universe for the chance to learn from your mistakes. And with that shift in your mind, body and soul, you will see the true purpose for which you were brought here.

As with most things I write about, it requires trust and time to unravel the mystery of your days. If you show true patience, it, like the music that shows you the way, will reveal itself to you.

Every time.